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Have you ever held a beach ball under water?

It’s exhausting. It takes so much energy to hold it down even though you know that, eventually, the ball will pop up and out of the water.

The same is true when you aren’t being true to yourself. You struggle to keep your feelings, ideas, thoughts, beliefs and desires inside.

Why?

Because you are trying to make someone else happy. Because you don’t know what else to do. Because you are dreaming about your story, but you aren’t living it.

And, if that doesn’t feel like a beach ball being submerged under water, I’ll buy you an all-inclusive vacation to Bora Bora.

I just received this message from a client of mine (and she said I could share it):

 

“Long story short – I was with a good friend last night and she was bitching up a storm about her sister and how she makes everything about her. My friend just goes along with it and commits to spending time with her because she’s pressured, yet she doesn’t even feel like a priority to her sister.

So, I said to my friend, ‘It sounds like you’re hurt.’

She said, ‘yes, and frustrated.’

I said, ‘so why are you doing things you don’t want to do?’

She said, ‘I never looked at it that way.’

“And then,” my client wrote, “it made me realize there are a lot of times I do things out of obligations even though they aren’t real obligations.”

 

Wow.

I felt elated on so many levels.

Not only is my kick-ass client owning and learning from her own roadblocks, she is able to notice similar traits in others and empower them to question their thoughts and beliefs as well.

Watching women sprinkle their magic on to other women, well… it’s priceless.

 

When you learn to live authentically – knowing who you are and what you want – you step into your power. You let that beach ball go free.

 You give yourself permission to question your thoughts and break away from the stories you tell yourself.

You no longer sacrifice your own happiness.

 And you no longer do things out of obligation. You do things because you want to.

 

When you start to say ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’ (so you don’t hurt, disappoint or anger someone else), ask yourself:

 

Why am I saying yes?

To please someone else?

Whose happiness am I sacrificing?

Am I being authentic or am I making decisions based on societal expectations (making choices according to what you think you should do as opposed what you want to do)?

 

Saying no doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you happy.

 

And, aren’t you worth it?

Live the life you were meant to live.

Author: Lisa Panos