Hi, I'm Lisa
a Certified Life Coach and Published Author who helps people stop struggling and start thriving in their relationships.
Trained by Dr. Martha Beck (aka, Oprah's Life Coach), I help my clients get a better sense of who they are so they can show up more powerfully in their relationships. Not only do I incorporate tried-and-true coaching methodology (including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Gottman Method, and Imago Relationship Therapy), I use my own personal experience to help move others into a healthier, more productive way of being (goodbye drama, hello peace!).
How Owning My Side of the Story Changed Everything
The Early Years
A 3-day suspension from middle school. That was my consequence for the mean-girl spree I’d been on since the beginning of 7th grade.
Spreading rumors about other girls, being mean as hell...
I didn’t understand it at the time, but I’d indulged in some seriously unacceptable behavior that was driven by those gnarly subconscious defense mechanisms to hide the fact that I felt like the dumbest kid in my hoity-toity private school.
I was so ashamed at what I’d done and those BSFs had me feeling paralyzed and defeated.
The Not-So Early Years
Years later, despite my best efforts to create an amazing family life for myself, the result was more like a path of domestic destruction.
The stress of living a champagne life on a domestic beer budget caused feelings of financial insecurity and major anxiety. The result? I found myself swimming in a steaming pot of toxic behavioral-soup as I did my best to “deal with” my issues.
My anxiety morphed into anger which I aimed directly at my husband and inevitably...it led to our divorce. I took every opportunity to blame the whole messy thing on him - I had no interest in looking at my part - owning my sh*t was too painful.
I was left with more shame, more guilt, more dysfunctional relationship drama.
This was NOT the life I’d planned for myself.
Taking The “DYS” Out Of Dysfunctional: My Transformation
So? After years of that crazy dysfunctional drama, what did I do?
I started down a path of inner growth and self-awareness and have never looked back. Of course, I still get a bit out of whack at times, but I’ve learned how to stop, acknowledge my feelings, own my side of the story, and change courses.
And here’s one thing I know for sure...
I may not be able to control everyone else or anything else (nor do I desire to anymore), but I can control one thing: who I am and how I react when I feel the Big Scary Feelings like insecurity, fear, and jealousy.
You want to create the relationships you crave? Be the change you want to see.